Please don’t call your consensual non-consensual fantasies “rape fantasies” unless you yourself are a survivor and choose to do so. It actively fetishizes rape; kinks don’t exist in a vacuum.
And think about it: rape isn’t a fantasy. The fantasy of non-con is being overpowered/dominated/losing…
I totally agree with this. As someone who is a victim, just as several other ladies I know, on and off line, non-con is a huge way of coping with repressed feelings toward the negative experiences and emotional turmoil that come with rape. Personally, knowing in the back of my mind that I can stop my “attacker” at anytime and regain control of the situation is…indescribably strengthening and therapeutic.
But once before a sexual encounter, a partner said to me “I guess I’ll just have to rape you.” He was kidding. But was he really? Chills went down my spin I got dizzy and I told him to get out. Screamed it actually.
Talking about rape is never acceptable in any sexual situation. No matter who has the control. Or lack thereof. Or what the “scene” contains. Associating the word rape with non-con is just not ok. That single word sent me into a week long stretch of depression and lowered my sex drive by like 90% for a long while.
Think about what you’re talking about before you say or do something stupid.